Think About It!: What do you look for in a Friend?

Ever since I was a teeny girl, this was the one question that people would ask. ALWAYS. What do you look for in a friend. Well, my answer as a teeny girl was probably this:
        "Uhh...I dunno. Someone who will share their Barbies with me?"
or possibly even,
        "Someone who is nice. And well let me have the li-hing mui from their shave ice."
Something along those lines, ya know?


And to be incredibly honest, I still don't really know what I look for in a friend. I'm extremely picky about people. I know, I know, it's horrible. But I've had many friends in the last few years of my life that have screwed me over. In fact, the people that screwed me over the most were my very best friends. I know. What kind of friend is that, right? So because of them, I sometimes have a hard time trusting people. Get it?


But thankfully, I have been blessed with some rather awesome people in my life. They are funny, honest, and kind, for the most part anyway. And of course I have my best friend.


His name is Brandon and we've been close for about three years now. And trust me, it has been long enough. I can tell him everything (yes, even the gross, girly stuff) and I would trust him with my life. We have our fights, because we are like brother and sister (so no one go get any ideas about how we should date. it's not gonna happen. EVER). He understands me like no one else in the world. He doesn't make fun of my ideas, but he's not afraid to laugh at me and tell me that I'm being stupid. He always, always listens to me when I need to vent. He is flippin' awesome.


If I could have a billion friends like my brotha, I'd be set. My group of friends are varied and our personalities are so different, but we all connect somehow. I like people who will listen to me (which is why I like you guys 'cause obviously if you're following me and reading my stuff, then you must enjoy the things I'm saying). I look for friends who are funny. a sense of humor is super important! if you can't laugh then we can't be friends (although i understand there is also a time for seriousness). I like people that are honest and won't talk smack about me behind my back. seriously, if you want to know something about me come ask ME about it. I like people who are real. Fake people annoy the living day lights out of me. Seriously, why would you waste your time being like that? I like people who are chill but can find a way to have a good time even if we're just sitting around talking story.


I try my best to like most people, and I usually do. I'm just the kind of  person who will be a little bit of a loner at first. But, I warm up to people quickly (as long as they get me. it's really hard to get an aquarius. trust me, even i don't get me sometimes)!


So, time for you to THINK about it. What do you look for in a friend?

True Friendship, Whatever that Means.

Something that has been on my mind lately is Friendship. Probably because I'm going through a stage in my life where I'm trying to figure out who my real friends are. I thought that part of my life was over, but I guess that it never is.

Ever since I was really young, I had a really hard time making friends who really understand me. I'm not an easy person to understand, something I blame on my Aquarian ways. I mean, if you read anything about Aquarians, you'll know that they're kind of weird and out there people who prefer being by themselves anyway. That's basically me in a nutshell. I prefer reading and being alone over hanging out with a whole bunch of people, but that doesn't mean that I don't want to make friends.

I do want friends. But I think what I want is too much to ask for. What I really want is a real friend. A friend that will listen to me complain about how much my life sucks right now. A friend that will also fan girl with me over stuff like Glee and the new Harry Potter movie that will come out. A friend that will talk to me about the random instances I have with the boys in my life. I just want a real friend. A true friend. Someone who will listen to me and love me for everything. Someone who will listen to me cry at 3 am. I'm not saying that I don't have friends like that. I do, and I'm grateful for them, but I don't have a friend who is all of that for me.

I thought that moving back to Oahu would be a change. I thought that I'd make new friends and have better ones, but that was a lot to ask for, I guess. With the exception of a very select few, the people that I've met here in church/YSA haven't been the best example of friends. They're gossipy, mean and controlling. They don't care about me or what I'm going through, but they expect me to show up and hang out with them. They're not the kind of people that I want to hang out with, though. They talk bad and laugh at people and then they act completely different to their faces. That's one thing that I definitely can't stand. I mean, I try to be nice and just hang out and stuff, but it's hard, you know? I've had such bad luck with friends the last few years a part of me wonders if it's even worth it...

Anyway, readers, what's your definition of a true friend? How do you make friends and stuff? Any suggestions for the friend dilemma?